Each substance of a grief hath twenty shadows.
William Shakespeare
Shadow
grief is the intense sadness that overcomes us when least expected, like a shadow from the past that darkens the day, the
moment or the mood.(1) Often called a grief burst, this reliving of grief may occur at any
time, usually at the most unexpected moments, and comes and goes for a lifetime. While shadow grief is often associated with
mothers whose children have died, anyone can experience this type of grief burst.
Footnote:
1. Healing and the Grief Process, Lynn Keegan, RN, editor. Boston: Delmar Publishers, 1997, p. 81.
To understand the many forms that shadow grief can take throughout our lives, I recommend:
Living in the Shadow of the Ghosts of Your Grief: A Guide for Life, Living and Loving by Alan Wolfelt, Companion Press, 2007.
Product Description:
Explaining how multitudes of North Americans are carrying the pain of all
types of loss—not just the deaths of loved ones but also the loss of a spouse through divorce, children who leave home,
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grief into an experience to be learned from.
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from their pasts, so that they can go on to live fuller, more balanced lives.
