December Reflection

When does the grieving end?


I know this will be a hard season for me.
I will take one day at a time.
I will acknowledge when grief hovers close.
And I will try to be open to times when joy may surprise me, too.

Martha Whitmore Hickman


For more thoughts on the changing seasons, please visit The First Time Around


The following ideas honor the dead any time of the year and you can do the activities below with children:

One of the best ways to teach children that we respect the dead is to visit a well-kept cemetery. This can be a pleasant and meaningful family outing, especially during the fall and winter seasons, because all of nature is in repose as it awaits the renewal of spring.

Think about the relationship between the changing seasons and the cycles of our own lives: We are born, we bloom, we mature and we die to be born again into Spirit. Life renews itself. The symbolism of spring, summer, autumn and winter, as it relates to the circle of life, can be helpful to children because it is gentle and valid. (If you prefer to omit Spirit, try this: All of nature is born and all of nature dies. The imagery still works.)

If you live in the Cincinnati-TriState area, take a stroll through Spring Grove Cemetery and Arboretum, a tranquil place that honors life in a beautiful setting.  

Visit the graves of your own family members. Place seasonal flowers or wreaths by the headstones. Share family stories with your children about their grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins -- to remember their lives and how they influenced your life.

Instead of the ordinary bedtime routine, pull out your old family albums and look at them with your children. This usually inspires some good family stories that you might forget to tell them otherwise.  

Your heart will tell you what you need, or don't need, to grieve. 

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Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

Over the last ten years, The Grieving Heart® meandered into many topics and lost its purpose. I have deleted 40 pages to bring it back to the original focus of grief and helping grievers.

Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Adding links by request, or finding and fixing broken links are massive time consumers, so I have deleted many outside sources and will limit additions in the future. The external links that remain are checked on a regular basis and related to grief, helping grievers and pet loss. 

I will continue to honor and remember veterans and fallen soldiers because it is the least I can do for those who have given so much.

I hope that my renewed attention to grief information will make The Grieving Heart® a better experience and comfort for you. Thank you for visiting. CJ



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How complicated and individual mending is, the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
. Mary Jane Moffat
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