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Table of Contents: An Overview
The Site Map provides a quick look at all the topics carried under one heading. For example, on
the site map, you will see that December's Deep Grief has ten pages. For ease of use throughout the site, only one
topic appears per page. You can access any page on The Grieving Heart® from the site map,
besides using the navigation bars
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is part of the human story and, at some point in our lives, we all must face it. As Shakespeare advised us in Macbeth,
I have given words to my sorrow:
The Reflection is a seasonal poem or quote from well-known, and not so well-known, grievers. It
changes monthly. You may find that you see yourself in the mirror of grief. Use the passage to reflect a moment in your journal,
or for mediation and prayer. Perhaps you will want to do nothing at all. Grief is personal. Follow your heart.
The Grieving Heart offers hope and support after the death of a loved one, looks at the difference between grief and depression and tries to answer: When does the grieving end?
Grief Takes Turns provides information on how to help grieving friends and family members any time of the year.
How do we grieve
while those around us are poised for celebration? December's Deep Grief acknowledges loss amidst the merrymaking and suggests ways to get through the grueling triathlon of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's Eve. December's Child offers ideas on how to help grieving children and teens with links and recommended books.
Kindred Spirits for thoughts on pet loss, euthanasia, children and the death of a pet, helping your
other companion animals grieve, memorials, comforting poetry, making the decision to get another pet, supportive links and
Soulful Signs carries a true story of redbirds and briefly explores the possibility of after-death communication.
The act of writing focuses your thoughts
and feelings, as you Give Sorrow Words and express the profound emotions of grief.
Click Thanatopsis for reflections on death. I once read that we never fully grow up until both our
parents die. By this definition, I have officially reached adulthood and I don't like it. When Parents Die ponders this statement.
The Last Full Measure commemorates all those who have given "the last full measure of devotion" in service to their country. Young Americans honors the brave men and women in the Armed Forces and carries current casualty counts for the wars in the Middle East since
2003. Take a solemn moment to view the Roster of Fallen Soldiers.
I first started writing about
grief in 2006 after the death of my mother. Since then I have received many heartfelt and poignant E-mails from fellow grievers.
I try to answer every one. Topics often come up that are not covered in the main body of this web site. I include them here
in Letters from the Heart.
Faces of Grief is a chronicle of my journey as a griever and as a grief writer. Yes, there is sorrow,
but you will find healing, too.
Other pages carry a list of recommended books divided into two groups: Books for You (support after loss) and How to Help Others.
a different perspective on grief, read The Truth About Grief: The Myth of Its Five Stages and the New Science of Loss by Ruth Davis Konigsberg. She writes on page 16, "Our grief culture maintains that grief is unique, then offers
a uniform set of instructions [on how to grieve]." From the back cover: "With this book, I hope to offer you a means
of escape from our habitual ways of thinking about grief." Konigsberg's
work is thought provoking and well researched. Click A Change of Heart for my review of the book.
Grief Support Links serves as a resource page for further
reading and is divided into different topics.
Web Site Ethics considers children and the Internet, copyright law, third-party links, use of
E-mail attachments and why I don't use social media technologies such as Facebook
or Twitter. It also carries a brief bio.
Memories of birthdays, anniversaries, summer vacations and personal milestones are always there to
make grief fresh again. Any first time around occasion without our loved one sharpens our awareness of the loss. Because grief
changes us in expected and unexpected ways, this site will always be a work in progress. Please visit again.
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