Grievers Helping Grievers


The world breaks every one and afterward many are strong at the broken places.
Ernest Hemingway, Farewell to Arms

At first, there is no gift in grief. When someone we love dies we are too aware of our own sadness to think about the sorrow of others. Yet, despite our pain, grief awakens us to the suffering of others. Sooner than we think, we will learn of people with grief like ours and reach out to them with the gift of understanding.

Circumstances can throw us together in unexpected ways. If we have a chance to talk, we will recognize each other's suffering and will be strengthened in this new relationship. I had the opportunity to listen to a friend share grief feelings that were newer than mine just three months after my mother died. We discovered that we were not alone in our sadness and this insight was oddly uplifting.

Grief teaches us that we must slow down, simplify and turn inward to open ourselves to new understanding of the world around us. Grief also teaches us that the only time we have is now to let people know we care about them. In our journey of grief, we find that giving and receiving love is the greatest healer of all.

As people around us experience their own tragedies, we can offer comfort and hope. When that day of reaching out arrives, we will be reminded of how far we have traveled on our own journey of grief. The death of a loved one is part of the human story that enables us to love and support each other through compassion.

Here is a portion of an E-mail from my wise online friend Marty, author of Grief Healing
, a comprehensive Internet resource: Loss is a part of living, after all, and sooner or later all of us will be faced with it. As Deidre Felton once wrote, "Sorrow is a matter of taking turns. This year, it's yours. Next year, it might be you setting the table for someone else who feels that they cannot cope."

Source for this article:

Hickman, Martha Whitmore. Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief. New York: Perennial Press, An Imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 1994, April 27 entry.

Makes a thoughtful gift for a grieving friend or loved one. At $10.00 a copy, it is affordable for most. It consistently receives five-star reader reviews at online bookstores. This is the book that I turned to every day during the first year after Mom's death.

Go to next page: Everything Has Changed

April 2019


Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

Over the last eleven years, The Grieving Heart® meandered into many topics and lost its purpose. I have deleted 40 pages to bring it back to the original focus of grief and helping grievers.

Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Adding links by request, or finding and fixing broken links are massive time consumers, so I have deleted many outside sources and will limit additions in the future. The external links that remain are checked on a regular basis and related to grief, helping grievers and pet loss. 

I will continue to honor and remember veterans and fallen soldiers because it is the least I can do for those who have given so much.

I hope that my renewed attention to grief information will make The Grieving Heart® a better experience and comfort for you. Thank you for visiting. CJ



 My E-mail:

Christine at The Grieving Heart dot info 

A Word About E-mail: One way to decrease SPAM caused by Internet bots is to deactivate the live address link. You can still contact me by typing this address into your own e-mail program using @, a period, and no spaces, the standard e-mail format. Thank you.

Note to Visitors:
I read and respond to grief email at the end of each month when I update this site. If you need a more timely response, please visit a well moderated grief healing discussion group. It is free to use and requires registration to participate. I am not part of this group, but certified grief counselors are there to help, support and comfort grievers and those who love them. Because the counselors lost funding for the site, they are grateful for voluntary donations.
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How complicated and individual mending is,
the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
Mary Jane Moffat
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