Grief Rituals

My grief will tell me what it needs from me every step of the way.
Martha Whitmore Hickman

Finding ways to remember and honor our deceased loved ones assists in the grieving process. Grief rituals, beginning with the funeral or memorial service, help us acknowledge and mourn the loss. Rituals also symbolize what we cherish and want to keep in our hearts. They bring us comfort as we commemorate the one who has died.

Grief rituals may come from religious or family tradition, but we can create our own as well. Anything that has special meaning to us may be part of our mourning rite, from displaying photographs of our loved one to bringing flowers to the grave. One simple idea is creating a memory book of pictures and personal stories from a loved one's life. Or, you may want to invite close friends and family members to your home for an evening of shared memories.

Soon after our mother died, my sister and I were faced with our mother's birthday. We invited a few special people to a lunch in her memory at my sister's house, complete with birthday cake without writing. Instead of opening birthday gifts, we each shared stories of the many ways our mother gave of herself to others. It was comforting to spend Mom's birthday with ones who loved her, too.

The suggestions below honor deceased loved ones and you can do the activities with children:

One of the best ways to teach children that we respect the dead is to visit a well-kept cemetery. This can be a pleasant and meaningful family outing, especially during the fall and winter, because all of nature is in repose as it awaits the renewal of spring. If you live in the Cincinnati/TriState area, take a stroll through Spring Grove Cemetery and Arboretum, a tranquil place that honors life in a beautiful setting.  

Visit the graves of your own family members. Share family stories with your children about their grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins -- to remember their lives and especially how they influenced your life.

Instead of the ordinary bedtime routine, pull out your old family albums and look at them with your children. This usually inspires some good family stories that you might forget to tell them otherwise.  

Grief rituals, like grief, are deeply personal. Your heart will tell you what you need to do, or not do, in order to grieve. 



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April 2019


Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

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Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Adding links by request, or finding and fixing broken links are massive time consumers, so I have deleted many outside sources and will limit additions in the future. The external links that remain are checked on a regular basis and related to grief, helping grievers and pet loss. 

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