Final Wish


Mom loved teddy bears and had about 200 bears in her collection. She was also a planner and, true to her nature, she left my sister Alice and me detailed instructions for her memorial service. Mom made it clear she wanted to be laid to rest with the one teddy bear that Dad had given her.

Since Dad preceded Mom in death by twelve years, only my sister and I were left to identify the special bear. We didn’t have a clue. My sister went to our mother’s home in search of the bear. The room was overflowing with bears of all types. How could she find the bear in a sea of bears? After looking for a while with no luck, Alice said out loud, “OK, Mom, you’re going to have to help me find the bear Dad gave you because I don’t know which one it is.”

My sister’s attention was then drawn to a small brown bear set slightly away from the others. Alice reached out to pick it up and the bear was warm to the touch, almost glowing. She turned it over and there was a tiny tag in our mother’s handwriting: From Jim. Alice had found the one teddy bear that Dad had given Mom and we were able to fulfill Mom’s final wish.

Was the teddy bear’s warmth a coincidence or a form of after-death communication? You decide.

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April 2019


Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

Over the last eleven years, The Grieving Heart® meandered into many topics and lost its purpose. I have deleted 40 pages to bring it back to the original focus of grief and helping grievers.

Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Adding links by request, or finding and fixing broken links are massive time consumers, so I have deleted many outside sources and will limit additions in the future. The external links that remain are checked on a regular basis and related to grief, helping grievers and pet loss. 

I will continue to honor and remember veterans and fallen soldiers because it is the least I can do for those who have given so much.

I hope that my renewed attention to grief information will make The Grieving Heart® a better experience and comfort for you. Thank you for visiting. CJ



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