Faces of Grief


My Personal Journey

What wound did ever heal but by degrees?
William Shakespeare

There is a piece of Eastern wisdom that tells me we teach best what we need to know. Creating the Grieving Heart® web site forced me to examine my own grief. I hesitated to include my story because it is, after all, just one woman’s journey. Grief is both universal and unique: We all grieve but we differ in the ways we grieve. How can my experiences possibly matter to you?
Some of my writing reflects the pain of new grief written almost a decade ago. Other passages express healing over time. Such is the nature of loss. I finally decided to add this section with the sincere intention that it helps you sort through your own loss and grief and, in some way, assists you in your healing.
I have read about the gifts of grief and, at first, the idea repulsed me. Mom’s death was not a gift. It helps me to remember that I grieve because I loved her. If I hadn’t loved her, I wouldn’t hurt. It is through this pain that change occurs and, if I am honest, grief changed me in some unexpected ways.

I appreciate little things more and take fewer things for granted. I have greater patience with other people and myself. I say thank you more often. I am most grateful for the notes that I receive from grievers. Knowing that my writing comforts others is a genuine gift that hides in the dark.

And yet, I would trade every new life direction, every note of thanks and every change of attitude if I could have my parents back. I didn’t go searching for these gifts of grief. They found me through my loss.

Because grief and healing are ever changing, this site will always be a work in progress.
Thank you for spending a few moments at The Grieving Heart®. I hope you found something here to comfort you. Please visit again.

Go to next page: The First Time Around

April 2019


Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

Over the last eleven years, The Grieving Heart® meandered into many topics and lost its purpose. I have deleted 40 pages to bring it back to the original focus of grief and helping grievers.

Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Adding links by request, or finding and fixing broken links are massive time consumers, so I have deleted many outside sources and will limit additions in the future. The external links that remain are checked on a regular basis and related to grief, helping grievers and pet loss. 

I will continue to honor and remember veterans and fallen soldiers because it is the least I can do for those who have given so much.

I hope that my renewed attention to grief information will make The Grieving Heart® a better experience and comfort for you. Thank you for visiting. CJ



 My E-mail:

Christine at The Grieving Heart dot info 

A Word About E-mail: One way to decrease SPAM caused by Internet bots is to deactivate the live address link. You can still contact me by typing this address into your own e-mail program using @, a period, and no spaces, the standard e-mail format. Thank you.

Note to Visitors:
I read and respond to grief email at the end of each month when I update this site. If you need a more timely response, please visit a well moderated grief healing discussion group. It is free to use and requires registration to participate. I am not part of this group, but certified grief counselors are there to help, support and comfort grievers and those who love them. Because the counselors lost funding for the site, they are grateful for voluntary donations.
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How complicated and individual mending is,
the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
Mary Jane Moffat
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