Why do bad things happen to good people?

I will be the first to tell you that I have no answers to life's unanswerable questions. Bad things happen to good people. Nothing can stop the pain and confusion when we are faced with senseless, unspeakable loss.

My best friend died at the age of thirty-two from a rare form of breast cancer, leaving two small boys without a mother. She did not want to die and she fought hard for her life. My friend tried every known treatment, from radical surgery and chemotherapy to herbal remedies and hands-on healing. Her catastrophic disease was not cured and she died peacefully in her sleep eight months after being diagnosed with cancer. My prayer is that she died cradled in the loving arms of her Creator.

It seemed so cruel to leave children, ages two and five, without a mother. How could a loving God let this happen? The suggestion by some that I was supposed to "learn" from the tragedy was offensive to me. To learn from grief felt like I was giving my approval for the death of my best friend.

Over time, grief has taught me compassion for the suffering of others. I have come to believe that God shares in our sorrow, and cries with us, as we struggle to comprehend the incomprehensible.

From I Corinthians 13:12: For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. (King James Version)
The promise of future understanding may comfort us; but for today, bad things happen to good people and we are left to wonder why.


Go to next page: All the Wrong Places

April 2019


Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

Over the last eleven years, The Grieving Heart® meandered into many topics and lost its purpose. I have deleted 40 pages to bring it back to the original focus of grief and helping grievers.

Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Adding links by request, or finding and fixing broken links are massive time consumers, so I have deleted many outside sources and will limit additions in the future. The external links that remain are checked on a regular basis and related to grief, helping grievers and pet loss. 

I will continue to honor and remember veterans and fallen soldiers because it is the least I can do for those who have given so much.

I hope that my renewed attention to grief information will make The Grieving Heart® a better experience and comfort for you. Thank you for visiting. CJ



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How complicated and individual mending is,
the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
Mary Jane Moffat
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